This month I have been thinking a lot about my locus of control. Like the rest of the world, I have spent far too much time in the circle of concern, worrying about the war in Iran and what another conflict might mean for the world. The reality is that, as distressed as I feel by these events, I have no control over what will happen next. Spending time in that sphere leaves me anxious and full of despair. Yet ignoring it completely does not feel right either.
For the sake of my own sanity, I have been walking more mindfully and finding joy in small things. Watching my dog leap through the tall grass without a care in the world. Smiling and waving at neighbours. Remembering to send messages to friends. I have been revelling in the birds I notice along the way and the quirky things people do to bring a little joy to others.
On a recent visit to Sydney, I took my dog down memory lane in Annandale. Thirty years ago, I used to walk another poodle along those same streets. The street I loved may have had a few more renovated houses, but essentially it was still the same.
Then I came across a concrete pillar box that someone had decided to paint, for no reason other than to provide a little magic for young children and for those of us who are still young at heart. I am quite sure they did not seek permission and probably would not have been given it, but they did it anyway.
It may have taken them an afternoon to paint the top like a toadstool, then add a tiny window and surrounds so that the pillar box looked like a fairy house, complete with a little garden at the front. In the midst of all the crazy things that humans do to each other, here was a small offering to the neighbourhood. An invitation for children to use their imagination and be enchanted by the world.
I took a photo so I would remember that moment. A reminder that even though adulthood can sometimes leave us disenchanted, a little magic still exists if we choose to notice it. And that brought me back to my locus of control. I could have walked past thinking about all the misery in the world. Or I could stop and admire someone’s small gift to their neighbourhood. That choice, it seems to me, is available to us all.
From Quill to Quote 