Bee stings and childhood things

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My childhood memories of bumblebees are vivid. They were big, bright and booming creatures I encountered in meadows, underfoot and once in the backseat of a car. An early encounter with a bumblebee set the scene for melissophobia (fear of bees) that plagued me for decades.

I remember the occasion clearly. In the back seat of my uncle’s car, the window was wound down to let in some fresh air. A bumblebee flew in and was buzzing loudly at the back window, trapped. The bee looked so pretty with its striped and furry body, and I was fascinated. My mother’s voice boomed from the front seat.

‘Don’t touch!’

This was enough to make me want to do just that. I was a contrary child who could never follow orders, especially not those given by my parents.  So, I did exactly the opposite to what I was told. I reached out to touch the bee and was stung on my hand. I wailed in pain and tears flowed freely. I probably received a few  ‘I told you sos,’ and nothing could console me. I grew weary of these gentle giants that fly awkwardly from flower-to-flower pollinating as they go. I also developed a fear of all insects in flight

Bumblebees are considered a pest in Australia, and I have only ever encountered them in Tasmania. Like so many imported species, they compete with native species and they also compete with honeybees. An interesting fact about bumblebees is that they do not produce honey. Due to their size, they can damage flowers which makes them unusable for other pollinators that come along. 

I have only overcome my fear of bees in the last few years after learning more about their importance to the ecosystem. Somehow, understanding their vital role in our own survival has changed my attitude towards these creatures and my fear has subsided. I treat bees with respect and keep my distance, but I am no longer afraid. I appreciate all that they do and now watch in awe as they engage in their complex ritual dances to let other bees know where the best nectar can be found.

Our choice in a broken world

The world keeps spinning. So does my head. I’m finding it hard to make sense of what has happened in the US this past week. Everything I have ever believed in; fairness, equity, social justice, minority rights, honesty, kindness – all the things I have fought for my whole life, have been brutally dismembered and thrown on a scrapheap.

Where does it leave us when the very rule of law, commitment to international law enshrined in conventions, treaties and standards is eroded and the rich and powerful can make self-serving decisions indiscriminately? There will be no impartiality of the judiciary, no checks and balances, no recourse. We are entering a dog-eat-dog era where people are pitted against each other, where you are either with me or against me. Either or. No nuance.

This is not a world I can believe in. Nor is it a world I want to live in. So, I will keep taking a stand for decency, compassion and tolerance. And I continue to find solace in Anne Lamott’s words that “Hope is not about proving anything. It’s about choosing to believe this one thing, that love is bigger than any grim, bleak shit anyone can throw at us.”
Amen to that!